How Do I Stop Overthinking Every Little Thing?

From someone who helps people like you to finally find some peace from overthinking.

If you've found yourself here after typing something like “How do I stop overthinking every little thing?” into Google, then what I would really like to let you know straight away is that... You’re not broken, you’re not too much, and you’re certainly not the only one going through this.

I’m Jules, counsellor, real-life human, overthinker-in-recovery and I work with people just like you who are helpful, thoughtful, deep-feeling and who is often living in their own head. Those who lie awake at night replaying conversations or triple-checking a text message. Someone who second-guesses everything because they care too much, not too little.

If that sounds familiar, keep reading. I’m going to talk to you like we’re having a cuppa, not a lecture because you deserve some space to breathe, not more pressure to “just stop overthinking.”

First off…why do you overthink so much?

Because your brain is trying to protect you. Somewhere along life’s journey you learnt that it was safer to…

• Rehearse every conversation

• Imagine every worst-case scenario

• Keep everyone else happy (even if it meant ignoring what youneeded)

Your overthinking isn’t random, it’s a response to the world around you, maybe to stress, past criticism or even trauma.

What started out as a coping mechanism has turned into a full-time, unpaid job inside your head and now It’s become exhausting… and very possibly…lonely.

But you can quiet the spiral and you can make peace with your thoughts.

Here's Some Ideas On How To Stop Overthinking (When Your Brain Just Won’t Quit)

1. Get Curious About Your Thoughts

Instead of believing every single thought (especially the shouty anxious ones), pause and ask…

• Is what I'm thinking a fact, a real fear or even an opinion? Where is my evidence for this?

• What would I say to my best friend if they said that they were thinking like this?

• What’s the kindest interpretation of this situation?

Because, if you think about it, not every thought you have is factual even. But those thoughts are trying to tell you something so one way to figure out what that is, is with kindness and using those questions above.

2. Use Your Body to Anchor Your Brain

When your head is doing somersaults your body can bring you back down.

Try this ...

• Feel your feet flat on the floor

• Press your fingertips gently together

• Breathe in for four, hold for four, out for four (and adjust this wherever you need to… such as changing the count to three).

It doesn’t fix the thoughts but it can help to slow down the spiral and give your brain a little break. Well at least that has been my experience.

3. Write It Out Rather than Just Thinking It Through

Thinking feels productive, doesn’t it? But sometimes we don't even realise it but it’s just going around on a loop.

Grab a notebook and ask yourself…

• “What am I afraid might happen?”

• “What does this remind me of?”

• “What do I need to hear right now?”

Writing takes the pressure off and it turns the invisible into something you can see, understand, and gently untangle.

4. Let “Good Enough” Be… Enough

I’ve found that perfectionism feeds overthinking like the garden compost feeds weeds.

So something I like to keep in mind when creating responses is to rewrite the rules because…

• Not every message needs a perfect reply

• Not every decision has a perfect answer

• You are allowed to be imperfect and still be worthy of love and respect

And that  can simply be asking  “What does good enough look like here?”

It’s been a game-changer for me, for some of my clients and for other people I know so maybe this is your turn to give it a go. Although always remember that just because something works wonders for someone else doesn’t mean it’ll click for you. I’ve learnt to try things out to see what fits me.

And if you don’t stop overthinking? Well… you’ll keep feeling stuck.

I’m not saying that to scare you. I’m saying it because I’ve seen what happens when overthinking is left to do just that... overthink and then...

• You lose sleep

• You doubt yourself constantly

• You avoid decisions altogether

• You shrink to fit what others expect

You deserve more than that. You deserve change… you don’t have to remain stuck.

This Is Where Therapy/Counselling Comes In (If You’re Ready)

Here’s what we could do together…

• We’d slow everything down.

• We’d look at where your overthinking comes from and not just the thoughts, but the why behind them.

• We’d get curious, not critical. Gentle and not judgemental.

• And we’d build tools to help you feel calmer and more confident, even when your brain wants to spiral.

  
  

So if you’re tired of analysing every little thing, if your brain feels like a browser with 100 tabs open, and if you’re ready to start putting yourself first (without the guilt)… counselling could be your next step.

And I’d be honoured to walk that journey with you.

📩 Want to chat? Click here to organise your free 20 minute introductory chat or send a message to 07478754839.  Let’s find your way back to calm, together.

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You’re in the right place.

You’re Not “Too Much”. You’re Just Tired of Carrying It All.

And you don’t have to anymore.

I see you.

I get it.

I’m here when you’re ready.

YOU DONT HAVE TO STRUGGLE ALONE!