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You’re the one who keeps going because that’s just what you do.

You hold everything together, reassuring yourself that it’s all fine and that you’ve got this.

To everyone else, you look like the one who has everything in place.

But inside? You’re tired and it’s not just the sleepy-head kind of tired, but that “I’m done in” kind.

So if that’s you, this post is for you.

The you that is doing her best.

The you who keeps showing up even when she feels worn out.

The you who carries her worries inside and tells herself to be grateful.

You might not even realise how tired you are until you see it written here.

Maybe you’ve noticed that…

• You feel behind on everything

• You don’t quite feel like yourself lately

• You keep saying you’re fine when you’re not

• You sometimes feel like you’re faking it

It’s no wonder you’re tired.

You’ve been quietly carrying too much for too long and holding everything together without a pause.

This kind of tiredness makes perfect sense when you’re constantly getting on with it and reminding yourself that you’ve got this.

Finding Small Breathing Spaces

You don’t need to overhaul your life or add more to your already-full list. Sometimes what you need most is a small, simple pause, a moment that reminds you that you don’t always have to keep doing.

Here are a few gentle ways to create breathing space…

Write one line that feels true for you today.

Something like, “I need a break,” or “I don’t have to hold it all right now.”

Let it be honest and with no editing.

Turn off notifications for an hour.

Give your mind a rest from the constant ping of everyone else’s needs.

Pause before saying yes.

Before replying to that message or email, give yourself ten minutes.

Ask, “Do I really want to say “yes” to this?”

Make friends with your inner critic.

Give that nagging voice a name like Naggy Nora, The Taskmaster or whatever makes you smile.

Adding a little humour can help to take away its sting.

Listen to a song that feels like you.

Play it loud or softly, close your eyes, and let it wash over you for a few minutes.

Do nothing for five whole minutes. And before you say no, give it a go.

Not as a reward, but because you’re allowed to stop.

You don’t have to earn your rest.

These small moments might not fix everything, but they can create a little space, space enough for you to breathe, to chill and come back to yourself.

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

If this post felt familiar, please know you don’t have to face everything on your own. You don’t need to wait until you’re falling apart to ask for help. It’s okay to reach out even when you just feel worn out especially when things look “fine” on the outside.

Sometimes, getting support simply means saying out loud…

“I think I need some support.”

That’s it!

You don’t have to have the perfect words or know exactly what kind of help you need.

You might start by...

• Talking with your GP, who can help you look at what’s going on and suggest next steps or support options.

• Reaching out to a trusted friend or family member, someone who listens without trying to fix things.

• Or contacting a counsellor, whether that’s me or someone else who feels like a good fit for you.

It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help it’s a sign that you’ve been strong for too long on your own.

A Gentle Reminder Before You Go

Today we’ve explored what it means to keep showing up on the outside while quietly unravelling on the inside, that kind of tired that comes from holding everything together and convincing yourself you’re fine.

You’ve started to notice what this tiredness really is…

It’s not weakness or failure, but a sign of how much you’ve been carrying, doing and being for so long and maybe, you’ve even given yourself permission to pause and to do one small thing differently.

Remember, you don’t have to keep pushing through on your own. The smallest act of care such as writing that honest line, switching off for a moment or asking for support is enough to start shifting things.

You deserve space to rest, to be supported, and not to just be the version of you that holds it all together.

If you’re ready to take that next step and you want me to be part of that journey know that you don’t have to explain everything, all you need to do is to let me know you’d like to talk and we’ll take it from there.

Contact me here

With Warmest Wishes

Jules x