The Christmas season is a time meant for pleasure, fun and connection—but, as I’ve often found, it can also bring stress, overwhelm, and the temptation to say “yes” to everything. So, I’ve written this blog to provide some information and ideas to help you set boundaries, reclaim your peace, and focus on what truly matters to you.
There's practical tips and empowering reminders, so that you can create a time that feels more fulfilling and less frantic. Ready to prioritise your well-being?
Firstly, DELEGATE, DELEGATE, DELEGATE! You don’t have to do everything yourself! If you’re hosting, let others bring a dish or help with decorating. Not only does it help you but it also gives others a sense of feeling useful and worth something.
Next, TUNE IN TO YOUR BODY - are you feeling drained or anxious? That’s likely a sign you’re overcommitting. Take a step back and ask, “What do I need right now?” Then honour it—whether it’s time alone or a calming activity. It can be a useful idea to pick and choose a few key gatherings instead of trying to attend everything. Be selective about what's genuinely okay for you.
Don’t forget reasons not to go. SAY 'NO' WITH CONFIDENCE. You don’t need an elaborate excuse! A simple: “Thanks for the invite, but I can’t make it” is enough. Saying “no” is a self-care power move!
Then, one of my favs. SCHEDULE DOWNTIME - block out time in your calendar for rest—treat it like any other important commitment. Whether it's a Netflix binge or a peaceful walk in nature, it counts!
Watch out for the old FOMO - Fear of Missing Out which can be extra strong over the Christmas period! Remember: you’re not missing out on anything that doesn’t add value to you and your life. I know it's tempting to say yes to please everyone at this time of year, but remember: you matter too. PRACTICE ASKING YOURSELF, “Am I doing this out of obligation or do I genuinely want to?” Let that help to guide your decision.
The 24 hour rule - Before committing to any new plan, give yourself a day to think it over. This pause will help you check if it's something you truly want or have the energy and time for.
Try focusing spending time with the people who really lift your spirits. If an event or meet-up feels draining, it’s okay to skip it!
PRACTICE GRATITUDE - Amid the business, take a moment to appreciate the simple things—cozy blankets, warm drinks, a quiet night in. A gratitude practice can shift your focus away from the pressure to do it all.
I don’t know about you but in the past, sometimes when I’ve felt ready to leave a social event before some of the others, I’ve stuck it out and not done myself any favours. Now I've learnt other ways of dealing with this stuff and CREATE AN ESCAPE PLAN. I remind myself that it’s okay to leave early if I've had enough or if I’m feeling overwhelmed. I even have a go-to phrase ready: “I’ve had a great time, but I need to head off now.” I then exit with grace!
It’s similar with cancelling engagements. Plans change, and so do energy levels! If something feels like it’s too much, it’s perfectly fine to cancel or reschedule. People understand more than you think.
Another tip - CREATE FAMILY PLANS - Sit down with your loved ones and decide what’s really important for you all during the Christmas period. Choose what’s most important by giving each event a score out of 10. Leave out anything that feels like an unnecessary obligation.
Then there’s the finances and the pressure to overspend. SET A SPENDING LIMIT - You can avoid so much worry by simply setting a firm budget. Share this with others if necessary: “We’re keeping it simple this year.” People will appreciate the honesty.
Lastly, try reminding yourself that setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s essential. BOUNDARIES ARE THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN GIVE YOURSELF. They allow you to show up fully for the things that truly matter, without burning out.
So, I hope that there has been something here that's useful for you and just a reminder that this guide is for general information purposes only. It is your choice as to whether you engage with these suggestions or not. Please make choices that feel right for you.
SENDING THE WARMEST OF CHRISTMAS WISHES FROM ME TO YOU.
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